Monday, May 30, 2011

Teen Driving: Be a Parent in the Know

Most teens believe they are invincible, however when it comes to driving a vehicle, they need to understand their responsibility not only to themselves, but to other drivers and their passengers.

The Safe Teen Driving Club and TeenDriving.com may be a place to start with your new driver.

Located just outside of Jacksonville, The Safe Teen Driving Club, Inc., is based in Atlanta, Georgia has been chartered to help parents educate, mentor, manage and monitor their teen drivers. They provide parents of teen drivers with tools, services and technology solutions they need to monitor the driving habits of their young drivers. With the help of parents, teen drivers can enjoy enhanced safety, security and protection.

The Safe Teen Driving Club and TeenDriving.com has some parenting tips for parents that are dealing with new drivers.  Now, during a holiday weekend, it is a great reminder that parents need to remind their teenagers to drive safely and one of the biggest reminders is no cell phones while drivingWhich includes no texting and driving.
Distracted driving is one of the leading causes of teens deaths on the roads.
General tips for parents of teen drivers:
  • Always wear your seat belt--and make sure all passengers buckle up, too.
  • Adjust your car's headrest to a height behind your head--not your neck--to minimize whiplash in case you're in an accident.
  • Never try to fit more people in the car than you have seatbelts for them to use.
  • Obey the speed limits, Going too fast gives you less time to stop or react. Excess speed is one of the main causes of teenage accidents.
  • Don't run red lights.
  • Use turn signals to indicate your intention to turn or to change lanes. Turn it on to give the cars behind you enough time to react before you take the action. Also, make sure the signals turns off after you've completed the action.
  • When light turns green, make sure intersection clears before you go.
  • Don't drive like you own the road; drive like you own the car.
  • Make sure your windshield is clean. At sun rise and sun set, light reflecting off your dirty windshield can momentarily blind you from seeing what's going on.
  • Drive into your garage straight, not on an angle. Another teen thought her car would straighten out before she got inside, but instead she dented the car and broke the molding on the garage.
  • Make sure your car has gas in it. Don't ride around with the gauge on empty--who knows where you might get stranded.
  • Don't drink and drive, and don't ride with anyone who has been drinking. Call parents or friends to take you home if you need a ride.
  • Don't take drugs or drive if you've taken any. Don't ride with anyone who has been using drugs. Even some over the counter drugs can make you drowsy. Check label for warnings.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Teen Help: When Therapy Isn't Working

Parent stress, how to help your teen.
As school is coming to an end for 2011, some parents are receiving notices that their teenagers are not passing, as a matter of fact, they are failing and are at risk of not graduating or being promoted to the next grade.

Some parents are aware that their teen as been spiraling in a negative direction - however as many of us do, we hope and pray that some miracle will change and our teen will not only pass, but will wake-up from this typical teen time.

Many parents try an adolescent therapist to help intervene.  Unfortunately many teens are able to manipulate the therapist and the next thing you know, we are back looking in the mirror - as our teen blames all the negative behavior on the parents. 

Being a parent in denial is only prolonging an issue that may be far worse than you want to admit however not allowing the truth to be recognized is only hurting yourself.

Especially in today's age with technology and drugs at their highest access to teen, parents need to take the time to what their teens are doing and with who.

Be an educated parents - learn about resources for help for your teen that is struggling and becoming out-of-control.  Visit www.HelpYourTeens.com.

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Problem Teens? Thinking Summer Program? Think Twice

Casual underage teen drinking? Not legal.
This is the time of year parents are calling - their teen is failing, hanging out with the wrong peer group, possibly using drugs or drinking, and even running away.

Over the past few weeks the increase of calls relating to teen runaways is disturbing.  Many of these parents believe that finding a good two-week summer program will fit this issue.  What parents don't understand is it took longer than two weeks to get to this point, it will certainly take longer to determine where this is stemming from.

Are you a parent that is considering a Wilderness Program for the summer? Think twice again.  This can be a very, very expensive camping trip and a band-aid that will soon fall off once school opens again.

As a matter of fact, Wilderness programs will tell you about 4 weeks into it (usually at $400 a day or more) - that your teen will need a longer term program following this camping journey.  Seriously - parents, you may be at your wit's end - but think about this?  Why? 

Why not start and finish with a program that can firmly help your teen with long term results - short term programs, short term results.

Parents that believe that they will "shock" their teen into appreciating what they have are sorely mistaken.

If you are struggling with your teenager, visit www.helpyourteens.com and get some sound advice.  Don't get sucked into a summer program or Wilderness journey that will most likely only scratch the surface.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Sue Scheff Celebrates a Decade of Helping Families of Struggling Teens

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Recently Sue Scheff was featured on Momtourage (iVillage) answering tough questions about raising today's teens. "A parent asked about invading their teen's privacy, such as reading their emails, text messages or journals," Scheff continues, "It is a matter of when safety trumps privacy.

Problem Teens? Are you at your Wit's End?
Author Sue Scheff celebrates a decade of helping families with troubled teens.

In 2001 Sue Scheff created Parents' Universal Resource Experts, Inc. (P.U.R.E.) in an effort to help educate parents when they have reached their wit's end with their teenager.

This year P.U.R.E. is celebrating over a decade of assisting over 50,000 families. During these ten years, Sue Scheff has been interviewed by many media outlets including ABC News, 20/20, Lifetime Balancing Act, The Rachael Ray Show, Fox News, CNN, Headline News, InSession, Wall Street Journal, Miami Herald, Forbes, USA Today, Sun-Sentinel and many others.

Recently Sue Scheff was featured on Momtourage (iVillage) answering tough questions about raising today's teens. "A parent asked about invading their teen's privacy, such as reading their emails, text messages or journals," Scheff continues, "It is a matter of when safety trumps privacy. If you suspect your teen is in trouble, becoming secretive, withdrawn, changing friends, I believe it is imperative for a parent to dig deeper if their teenager won't open up verbally."

Scheff knows personally the turmoil mother's experience when their household is being disrupted by bad teen behavior. Out of desperation she turned to teen specialty schools and behavior modification programs for her own daughter but that only worsened the situation. Although her story is painful and the trials and tribulations' seemed endless, Sue Scheff believes that there are excellent residential treatment centers and recognizes she made a huge mistake when she was at her wit's end which is why she agreed to have her story published in an effort to help others.

Wit's End, Advice and Resources for Saving Your Out-of-Control Teen, authored by Sue Scheff, was released in 2008 by Health Communications, Inc (HCI) and has been selling fast and steady to parents, educators and people with at-risk teens. "I am amazing at how many parents have emailed me or called to say that my book has helped them in many ways. After struggling with their own teen, they realized they are not alone," Scheff says. "I also hear from parents on a daily basis that they were so confused but after reading my story, understand this teen help industry better and are able to make better choices for their own teen."

With today's ever expanding digital world, many parents hit the Internet looking for help for their troubled teenager only to be bombarded with slick websites and slicker sales reps trying to get your business. Scheff realized over ten years ago when she had her own struggles, that the Internet isn't always what is seems to be.

"Deciphering Internet fact verses Internet fiction can be very difficult," Scheff said in a recent interview with The Parenting Plate. "This is why my book, Wit's End has proven to be a priceless asset when looking for residential therapy for your child."

Sue Scheff continues her story about the Internet and how it can be an educational tool or a lethal weapon, depending who is using it, in Google Bomb, The Untold Story of the $11.3 Verdict That Changed the Way We Use the Internet, also authored by Sue Scheff and Internet Expert and Attorney, John Dozier Jr., and published by HCI in 2009.

If you are searching for residential therapy for your troubled teen, visit www.HelpYourTeens.com for more information. To learn more about Sue Scheff, please visit www.SueScheff.com.

Contact: (954) 260-0805
Email: sue.scheff@gmail.com

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mother's Day: Your Teen Wants to Hang with YOU

Today is a special day for parents that are mother’s and even father’s that play both roles.  Here is a repeat reminder of how teens want to be part of our lives.

According to a ‘Family Circle’ survey last spring, beneath that angst-ridden facade is a teen who is much different than he or she appears. There is a part of them that hungers to be part of their parent’s life.
As a matter of fact, teens have stated that they wish their parents spend more time with them and worked less.  With today’s economy, that can be difficult, but it is promising that teens deep down do want to be part of your family.

What Parents Need to Know:
  • While nearly a quarter of teen respondents said their parents don’t seem to have enough time to spend with them, the majority of the parents surveyed did not report having struggles with finding enough time to spend with their kids. This disconnect may be the result of parents underestimating the amount of time their kids want and need from adults. (Dr. Holly Kreider, Harvard Graduate School of Education)
  • Teens say it’s the simple things -like taking walks, sharing meals, playing games, watching TV and talking more with each other – that they most want to do more of with their parents. (Opinion Research Corporation)
  • Use time together as an opportunity to talk about what’s going on in your teen’s life, how their day was and what they want for their future. (Dr. Nancy McGarrah, psychologist)
  • Spending time with your children is essential to their development. Parents are the best source of education for their children. Make sure they’re getting their information from you – and not the TV or other teens. (Dr. Kindell Schoffner, licensed psychologist)
Sources: Connect with Kids, KATV, American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Teens Hanging with Less Than Desirable Teens: Teen Gangs

Do you know your teen's "friends?"
Teen Gang and Gang Violence has taken on a new light in today’s age. 
 
Gangs prey on the weak child that yearns to fit in with a false illusion they are accepted into the “cool crowd”. With most Gangs as with Teen Cults, they can convince your child that joining “their Gang or Cult” will make them a “well-liked and popular” teen as well as one that others may fear.  This gives the teen a false sense of superiority.  Remember, many of today’s teens that are acting out negatively are suffering with extremely low self confidence.  This feeling of power that they believe a gang or cult has can boost their esteem; however they are blinded to the fact that is dangerous.  This is how desperate some teens are to fit in.

In reality, it is a downward spiral that can result in damage both emotionally and psychically. We have found Teen Gangs and Teen Cults are sometimes hard to detect.  They disguise themselves to impress the most intelligent of parents. We have witnessed Gang members who will present themselves as the “good kid from the good family” and you would not suspect their true colors.

If you suspect your child is involved in any Gang Activities or any Cults, please seek local therapy and encourage your child to communicate. This is when the lines of communication need to be wide open. Sometimes this is so hard, and that is when an objective person is always beneficial.  Teen Gangs and Teen Cults are to be taken very seriously.  A child that is involved in a gang can affect the entire family and their safety.  Take this very seriously if you suspect your child is participating in gang activity or cult association.

If you feel your teen is in need of further Boarding School, Military School, Residential or Program Options, please complete our Information Request Form.

Learn more at www.helpyourteens.com.