The Blog of P.U.R.E. and Sue Scheff

Choosing the right program takes time. You have come to a point that therapy isn't working, your teen is out of control, they are saying they are going to drop out of school, and not attending classes - now you found out they are smoking pot, maybe worse.  Of course we then shift into the blame game! Stop, listen to yourself -and take action.  Don't be a parent in denial - get your teen the help they need.  The Internet is a confusing and daunting experience, however a necessary tool when trying to decipher a field you are totally foreign to. Parent networking is priceless!  Talk to other parents that have had similar experiences. Move forward from wanting teach your teen that they need to appreciate what they have - it just won't happen in a boot camp, scared straight or even wilderness.  Sure - you will break them down "temporarily" but what happens with that "fright" wears off? Need help?  Visit www.HelpYourTeens.com where your family is ...

Breaking a teen down, does it really build them up? It never ceases to amaze me that parents are still asking for boot camps or scared straight programs .  Although they may make an initial effect on your teen, it is rarely, if ever, long lasting.  They are usually considered a band-aid to a wound that will soon be re-opened. Many teens that are acting out in a negative way, are usually crying out for help.  Lack of self-esteem, negative peer group and simply feel like they are not important to anyone. Boot camps and scared straight programs are about breaking your child down - aren't they already there?  In many cases these types of programs can build more anger and resentment which is usually targeted at the parent that sent them there. Finding a program that helps determine where these negative impulses are coming from and helping your teen work through them can be the best way to get back on a positive road. Are you ready to get your teen the help t...