How to Help My Teen with Loneliness
Have you noticed your teen becoming more withdrawn? Isolating themselves to their bedrooms or shutting down from family functions? A growing body of research shows that young people are more likely to feel lonely than older adults.
Loneliness is hard especially for teens, it can affect them in several ways. Teenagers that are lonely experience a higher rate of stress, depression and having a negative outlook on their life. Some may turn to substance use (drugs, drinking or vaping) to relieve their feelings of sadness and hopelessness.
This generation of technology — social media, texting, messaging and other forms of digital communication has left our young people savvy with their keypad, however lacking with “in-real-life” skills. This can also lead to loneliness, as they are likely sitting in their room communicating on a screen rather than face-to-face.
5 Ways to Help Your Teen Beat Loneliness
It’s important to remember, you don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. In some situations, such as changing schools, experiencing bullying (cyberbullying), parents are going through a divorce, or a move to a new area might cause your teen to feel lonely.
1. Hobbies, interests, activities. Find something that your teen is passionate about or they have had an interest in. From sports, dance, chess, writing, drama, animals — there are many hobbies and interests with organizations to join. Meeting other peers with your teen’s own interests can help them spark conversations.
2. Volunteer and community service. In most schools, community service is part of high school credits. Humane society, nursing homes, daycare centers — as your teenager is giving back to the community, it will be your teen that is actually receiving the benefits.
3. Part-time job. Encourage your teen to find a part-time job. Working with peers and learning about others is a great way to get out and socialize with other young people. Earning their own money can boost their self-confidence and prepare them for the future.
4. Join a gym. Yes! Joining a gym is a great way to not only to ease loneliness, but physical activity stimulates many brain chemicals that may leave you feeling happier, more relaxed and less anxious. Did your teen meet a new friend (or one of their old friends) — join together! Working out is a perfect way to meet people and feel good.
5. Get a pet. There is a wealth of research on the value of pets for emotional well-being. These relationships also cause the release of oxytocin as a consequence of attachment. Oxytocin is a powerful chemical in the brain that promotes feeling soothed and in touch with others. Pets provide emotional support and connection. Caring for pets is a joyful experience.
As with adults, it’s not pleasant to feel lonely, however with time and persistence together you can help your teen defeat feeling lonely. In some cases, it’s simply by putting down the phone and engaging with people in real life.
Also read:
What Causes Teen Mental Health Issues?
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