Friday, January 15, 2016
In many situations they have already parted with thousands of dollars to an educational consultant that has recommended this type of program for their child.
Sadly, we've heard this scenario it causes us to wonder what the motivation is. In our opinion, they must have their reasons - which hopefully parents can figure out.
In the meantime, this is not against the reputable wilderness programs that are in our country, it's more about the awareness that the majority of teenagers need more than 6-9 weeks to change the behavior that causes you to read this post or call that educational consultant.
Learn more about wilderness programs and our thoughts here.
Be an educated parent before you spend that extra $15-30K.
Saturday, January 9, 2016
As I share with parents, residential therapy is a major decision not to be taken lightly. It's not about teaching your child a lesson, it's not about punishing your teen or scaring them straight -- residential therapy is a huge financial and emotional decision that is made after you have exhausted all your local resources.
Residential therapy is a choice made out of love to give your child a second chance at a bright future.
Usually a parent has reached their wit's end; they have been to local therapy, some have even tried having their teen stay with a relative. Some have been through extensive out-patient programs but it isn't until you remove (residential therapy) the teen from their environment that they will be able to heal and gain an objective view on what is the root of the issues.
In the majority of families that contact us, these are not bad kids, these are kids that come from good families - raised with morals and taught right from wrong, however making very bad decisions. Whether they have fallen into a negative peer group or struggling with self-worth issues, they are definitely going down a dark path that needs to be addressed.
In many situations we see today's teen as the spoiled rotten brat syndrome. Don't be ashamed of that - that is our culture today. It's not right, but that's how parents of this generation have raised their kids --- they get just about anything they want without earning it. This leads to generation entitlement teenager.
When they feel they are being boxed in or suddenly things aren't as easy as they used to be, as middle school and high school can tend to become more difficult to fit in, rebellion and defiance (in combination with puberty) can strike.
This behavior can escalate into not only a nasty attitude, but soon you watch their grades declining, maybe they quit (or asked to leave) their once-favorite sport, and suddenly you discover they are using illegal substances and drinking. The spiral continues.
Their outbursts at home and anger towards the parents become unbearable. Worse some teens will get into trouble with the law, maybe shoplifting things they can well-afford to purchase.
Parents soon feel hostage in their own home. No one is immune to this.
How To Know When It's Time to Try Residential Therapy
How Residential Treatment (RTC) or Therapeutic Boarding Schools (TBS) Helps, When Nothing Else Does
The hardest part is finding the right program/school for your teenager. There are many choices in our country. Take your time (within reason) and do your due diligence. We offer helpful hint and questions to ask schools and programs on our site. Be sure the program is licensed, accredited and has enrichment programs to stimulate your child in a positive direction.
There are also red flags, when programs frequently have to change their name, sometimes the Christian programs don't have to meet the regulations as traditional TBS or RTC, it's all about doing your research. We aren't purchasing a car - we securing your child's emotional growth.
If you feel you are ready to consider residential therapy, please contact us for a free consultation. I have walked in your shoes over a decade ago. Although we had a bad experience, I believe there are many good programs - it's all about educating you to learn to find what is best for your family. Learn from my mistakes - gain from my knowledge.