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Part 10 of my sneak peek inside the BIG Book of Parenting Solutions , written by parenting expert, Dr. Michele Borba , brings us to a topic that I hear about frequently - LYING . Why do our kids lie to us? What is the motivation? Where did they learn this habit from? Is there really a difference between a white lie and not a white lie? Let's explore this subject. There is an entire chapter on lying starting on page 173. Red Flags Lies, exaggerates, or stretches the truth; can no longer be trusted; deceives out of habit Pay Attention to This! An occasional fib is nothing to worry about, but if your child develops a habit of lying, it could be a sign of some deeper problem or, in rarer situations, Conduct Disorder. Seek the help of a mental help professional for these reoccurring symptoms: stealing, lying, fighting, destroying property, truancy, deliberate infraction of rules, bullying and cruelty, or showing no sadness or remorse when confronted with the mistruth. See also Bullying...

Another sneak peak of what The BIG Book of Parenting Solutions , by Parenting Expert, Dr. Michele Borba . As school opens, this is a timely post. Parenting Solutions to Stop “Poor Loser” Attitudes and Boost Sportsmanship By Michele Borba REALITY CHECK : “I should have won.” “They ought to fire the coach.” “I could have gotten the right answer. The teacher doesn’t like me.” “If I were on a better team I’d win.” Sound familiar? They’re all symptoms of a deadly youth ailment called “Poor Loser” and it’s spreading among our youth. Watching any kid be a poor loser is embarrassing, but when the kid is yours, it’s downright humiliating. Sure, your son or daughter may be the best drummer in the band, have the highest-grade point average in the class, be the best gymnast on the squad, or the fastest sprinter in town, but the moment she starts blaming others, making excuses, arguing, or booing, her skills no longer matter. What everyone sees instead is just a poor loser, and that’s a tough image...

More great parenting advice from Parenting Expert and Guru, Michele Borba! Don't forget to order her BIG BOOK of Parenting Solutions . By Michele Borba How to Choose Your Family Values & Become a More Intentional Parent REALITY CHECK: Parents don’t raise moral kids by accident. They know what they stand for and pass those values onto their children deliberately and purposefully. So here’s your Reality Check: If you sat your child down right now and asked: “What do we stand for in this house? or What values matter most to our family?” would your child be able to answer? If not, it just means you’re not tuning up your values strong enough so your child adopts them for his own moral core. Suppose you were allowed just one wish for your children and just suppose your wish would be granted. Here is the rule: The wish must be something you personally can control (so it can’t things like your child’s health, financial status, or longevity). It must also be something you can inspire o...

As a Parent Advocate , I am a huge fan and friend of Michele Borba ! I am very excited that her 23rd book will be released in September 2009. The reviews are in and they are outstanding! The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries Publishers Weekly Borba, author and Today Show regular, employs a cookbooklike approach in her latest volume: rather than read through the entire tome, parents can flip to topics pertinent to their family. Borba opens with a friendly overview, noting that contemporary parents feel more stressed and find their roles increasingly difficult (June Cleaver, she points out, didn’t have to deal with cyberbullying or Facebook). With characteristic wit, Borba identifies the “seven deadly parenting styles,” including helicopter, buddy, incubator, bandage, paranoid, accessory parenting (judging themselves by their kids’ accolades) and secondary parenting (relinquishing power to such outsiders as marketers or the me...