Help For My Defiant Teen During COVID19
Are you searching for teen help?
No doubt, many parents are experiencing new challenges with their anxious teenagers during these uncertain times.
In a recent survey by Common Sense Media, the spread of the coronavirus has upended school for teens, with 95% of 13- to 17-year-olds in the U.S. reporting the cancellation of in-person classes at their schools at least temporarily.
Teens are worried - the average youth is facing stress, anxiety and some are feeling loneliness (according to the survey). For those that were already experiencing risky behaviors, this can be more troubling.
Quarantine life could be a time of relaxation for some, but for some parents of teens, it's anything but relaxing.
Whether your teen is stressed out from not being able to mingle with their friends, or spending way too much time online (especially since they had to finish school virtually) -- maybe your teen is feeling isolated or lonely, are they sinking into a depression? Are they self-medicating? Becoming defiant, angry, raging or even explosive? Are they stealing your credit card -- ordering things offline without your permission?
You've exhausted your local therapy, in many cases, your teen has been able to manipulate their way around their therapist. Maybe you've tried out-patient -- even a short stay in a local hospital.
Is residential therapy for you?
When a parent calls P.U.R.E. they are usually surfing the internet and confused by all the fancy websites, terminology they are now learning about (RTC, TBS, Wilderness, transport services and more) and wondering --- is this really want my child needs?
The fact is, in many situations you have a good kid that is now making some bad choices and you never in a million years thought you would be facing this day.
None of us did. Yet here we are.
That's the best part - you're not alone.
There are many residential therapy schools and programs in our country, probably because there are many families in need of help today. Although there are many good programs and schools - there are also many that you need to be skeptical of - as well as many sales people you need to concerned about that may not have your child's best interest at heart.
When will you know it's time for residential therapy?
- Have you exhausted all your local resources? From using local therapy to extending into outpatient teens can be easily shut-down. Although we know that many times it's difficult to get a teen to open up to therapist - or even attend a session, parents need to know they at least tried. When in residential therapy, the entire program evolves around their emotional wellness, 24/7. Being removed from their negativity - helps tremendously.
- Living with a relative. Some families have attempted to move the troubled teen to a relative. Again, sometimes this works - and others it can be a band-aid, however it can help you make that decision that you have exhausted your local resources before you decide to choose residential.
- Is your teen a danger to themselves or other people (you)? Has your child become violent towards you or themselves? This is when you know it's time to start researching for residential therapy. It's not working at home.
- Do you feel like you are hostage in your home by their behavior? Do you feel like you are walking on egg shells? Being careful about what you say or how you act for fear they may become explosive? Again, this is a red flag it may be time for residential therapy.
Keep in mind, there are different types of residential therapy. P.U.R.E. can help educate you on what may best fit your child's individual needs without placing them out of their element. Think you may not be able to afford residential therapy? Take a moment to review the financial options.
During COVID19, most programs are taking precautions to keep your child safe. They will likely have your teen placed in a 2-week quarantine home prior entering a program.
Residential therapy is a major emotional and financial decision. Contact us today for more information.
