Friday, March 25, 2011
Troubled Teens: The Blame Game
Really - you want to believe that so badly, but in reality if your teen that is making the choice not only to hang with that negative peer group, he/she is also part of it! So another parent of a teen he/she is hanging with is saying the same thing.
Your teen has choices, he/she is making a choice of who their so-called friends are. Your teen is making the decision to smoke pot. Your teen is making a choice to stop studying and heading down a negative path.
It is no different than a parent making a choice to be friends with their neighbor, who may not be the biggest gossip in the town.
If your teen is making bad choices that are escalating to a point that you are no longer able to control him/her, it is time to look at parent choices. Seeking local therapy, youth groups, outpatient facilities and even looking for help from relatives - exhausting all your local options.
Don't get stuck in the blame game circle! It isn't your fault - parenting is not easy, and we do our best to give our children the best. Entitlement issues have become a trend of today.
If you come to the conclusion you need residential therapy, do your homework - this is a major decision that is not only financial, it is an emotional one.